Author: nysateam

An Open Letter To Feeling Type Therapists

Dear Feeling Type Therapist, I have always struggled to identify my theoretical orientation and I used to feel so uncomfortable when people would ask me to do so. I learned about psychological theories in school in an abstract way. I could retain the information long enough to pass exams but…

The Cycle of Harmful Romantic Relationships Can Be Broken – Learn How in This Month’s Lunch & Learn

Most people first learn how to love through developing attachments to their parents and caregivers throughout infancy and early childhood.   But when those first attachments are unstable, they can become insecure and lead to unhealthy and potentially harmful romantic relationships throughout adulthood.  Good news: this cycle can be broken! Here at Nysa Therapy we have methods…

The Power of The Clinical Compliment

We all like to receive compliments. That makes them powerful. When Insoo Kim Berg and Steve de Shazer developed solution focused therapy, they molded compliments into a potent clinical intervention. Let me tell you how the clinical compliment is different from the social compliment. A social compliment is a comment about…

Working With The Dependent Personality

Dependent personality is a kind of narcissistic personality. But, unlike its famous cousin, dependent personality appears weak and often comes to therapy rather than refusing to come. All of the personality disorders have their unique difficulties. DPD is difficult because it dominates with weakness; it controls the therapist by being…

Our Beautiful Fluid World

Carl Jung said that all personalities are made up of a female part and a male part, kind of like the Yin Yang symbol.  The female part is Yin and a male part is Yang.  In the past, babies with female genitals were channeled toward Yin and usually ended up…